Safe secrets

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30 minutes

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Note for parents

These activities are all about helping children understand the difference between secrets that are safe to keep, and those that need to be told.

Before you begin

When you’re practising your super spy skills and code-making, secrets are the name of the game. But in everyday life, secrets can be a bit more complicated. Some kinds of secrets – like nice surprises or funny pranks – are good fun, and make people feel happy. You could call these safe secrets. Safe secrets never stay as secrets for long! However, some secrets can make people feel worried or unsafe.  

Any secret that makes you feel worried or uncomfortable is not a good or safe secret to keep. If there is a secret that you feel worried about, or if you aren’t sure whether a secret is safe or not, you should always talk to a trusted adult about it. If you don’t have a trusted adult to talk to, you can contact Childline on 0800 1111 for help and advice.   

Now try our games to have fun with some of the good kinds of secret!


Safe secrets

  • Make a list of ‘safe secrets’ (surprises) that you could plan and carry out. You might like to make a handmade card for someone, or ask an adult to help you plan a special breakfast in bed for a family member. Or perhaps you could secretly slide a piece of paper under someone’s door with a joke on it – don’t tell them you’re going to do it and it will be a funny surprise when they find it.  


Who am I?

  • This is a good game that you can play with a friend over the phone. You think of a famous person or character, but keep the name a secret (for now). Then your friend can ask you ‘yes/no’ questions to try and guess who you are. They can only ask you questions that you can answer with ‘Yes’ or ‘No’. Some good questions are ‘Are they from a film?’ ‘Are they an adult?’ ‘Are they a girl?’ When they say the right answer – or give up – you reveal the secret of who you were.   


Bullseye Magpie

  • Think of a three letter word – for example, ‘CAT’ – but keep the word a secret (for now).
  • The person you are playing with has to guess what it could be by suggesting a three letter word of their own (for example, ‘BAD’).
  • Any letter in their word that matches a letter in your word – and is in the right position – is a bullseye. So in this example, the A in BAD is the same as the A in CAT – it’s a bullseye! If your friend suggests a word with a letter that matches but is in the wrong position for example the ‘AND’– is a magpie.
  • When your friend guesses the right word – it’s three bullseyes! Then you can swap over and have a go at being the guesser. You might choose to give your friend a clue to help them.


Your word is CAT

Friend guesses CAR = 2 bullseyes, 0 magpies

Friend guesses ACT = 1 bullseye, 2 magpies (all off the letters are correct, but two letters are correct but none in the wrong position)

Friend guesses RAT = 2 bullseyes, 0 magpie

Friend guesses TAP = 1 bullseye, 1 Magpie

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